The Dos And Don’ts of Dating Apps
How to actually get a date out of it!
Most humans I know go on dating apps when they are bored and/or when they want to meet new people. Whether you are looking for a date or just want to make new friends, dating apps can be a great go-to platform.
I personally have been frequently visiting dating apps for years now. While I had a lot of failed talking stages, I met great people with whom I’m still friends with to this day.
Over the years, I learned a lot about online dating. I uncovered a couple of secrets and learned a lot of tricks that allow to me meet people who seem worth it.
So, let’s get to it!
1. Good pictures go a long way
While we say we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, dating apps say fuck that! You are there to judge people’s looks and to be judged in return.
By posting a blurry picture or a group photo, you are ruining your chances of meeting people. I personally don’t swipe right on people with group photos, blurry selfies, or no pictures at all. How am I supposed to know if you aren’t a serial killer if I don't get to see your face?
Also, when you post a picture with a member of the other sex, you are not giving an “ooh I get bitches” kind of vibe. You’re trying too hard to look cool and you, my love, are failing.
2. A fun bio will guarantee a swipe right
Once you see someone’s picture, you move to their bio and info. This is when you get to see a glimpse of who they are as a person. This is when you decided if they are worth swiping right for or not.
A funny, short bio will get you anywhere. I personally like to keep it light. I put a silly joke that shows people I have a funny side without doing it too much.
There are a couple of websites that post good bios that you can copy and alter to your liking.
3. Don’t be creepy
When you start talking to someone for the first time, the things you say will be remembered forever. After all, first impressions shape your identity in others’ minds.
If you come off too hard or too creepy, you will be blocked for sure. Even if you are on the app for a sexy date, you need to test the waters before you dive in.
While is it good to be direct, it’s bad to be too direct.
4. Trust your guts
While it’s not always good to listen to your guts, sometimes it’s crucial. If you ever get a weird feeling from someone you match with, trust your gut and unmatch with them or even block them.
The amount of creeps out there is unbelievable, and you have to look out for yourself.
5. Don’t let it all out
It’s good, to be honest when talking with someone online, but it’s not good to be too honest. Avoid giving out too much on yourself. You never know if that’s a serial killer you’re talking to.
Yes, you can talk about your hobbies and what you do in life, but you can’t keep babbling on and on about your ex.
6. Be safe!!!
This is the most crucial advice anyone can give you, especially when meeting strangers online. While you might think that it’s just an innocent date, it could turn to be a lot worse.
Pick a public place to meet, like a coffee shop or a not-too-crowded hangout spot. Tell your friends who you are meeting and send them your location as a safety measure.
It’s better to be safe than sorry, right?
For further advice on protecting yourself online, check this blog I wrote last year that has 18 tips on protecting your identity and safety.
Society has always shamed dating app users and made us all cower in the corner. But, there is absolutely nothing wrong and wanting to meet people a different way. Actually, it seems like it’s an appropriate way, seeing how we grew up with daily internet access. How else are we supposed to meet people? Go out and talk to strangers? Hell no.
To keep it short, download a dating app if you are lonely or curious, it can be so much fun, trust me.
Until next time, be brave.
