I Never Want To Get Pregnant.

I don’t want to bring another human to this world.

Before I start, I want to wish myself a happy one-year anniversary of being here on Medium; we went through a lot in 2020, being able to write about it kept me sane. Thank you for being here. Now let’s get down to business.

When I was a child, my dad would ask me: Ehssan, what do you want to be when you grow up? I would always tell him I want to be a mother.

Now that I’m capable of making life decisions (even though I shouldn’t), being a mom is still on the bucket list, but it’s not on the top.

I always see myself in the future as a successful woman with kids, I had baby fever for years (more like a chronic fever); I used to cry sometimes about it because I realized I have to go through a lot of steps before I get to have a baby.

However, lately, I have been doing a lot of reading and I concluded that I don’t want to get pregnant; I don’t want to physically bring another child to this world; I want to foster and adopt.

The world is full of orphan kids who need the chance of having a home, of having a mother, I don’t want to waste 9 months of my life in pain to bring another child to this already messed up world.

If I’m financially stable enough to have a baby, I’m rich enough to adopt a child no matter his or her age.

I want to do good in this world by adopting and loving a helpless child, a child who would have ended in the streets because of the messed up system.

I want to physically carry a child; I want to feel the fetus growing inside of me, and I want to go through the whole deal, but that’s what my body wants, and it’s natural, but I can’t be selfish, I will not carry a baby just because I want to know how it feels. I won’t put my unnecessary emotions over helping a child who already exists and actually needs me.

I will sleep better at night knowing I’m doing good in this world, knowing I actually helped.

I read a quote once that said; Being a mother is an attitude, not a biological relation.

In the last years, I matured unimaginably; I used to be pro-life (boo me I know), I used to lay back, judge people for doing what they wanted to do with their bodies, and not do anything about the babies who are already born and suffering. However, I have grown into an amazing woman who wants to do good in this world.

I know that this decision will change my future, it will make finding a partner with the same mindset very hard, and I honestly do not care.

Please tell me your view on the matter, we are all entitled to have an opinion.